Saturday, September 17, 2016

The stepfamily defined

The traditional definition of a stepfamily presumes that children live full-time within a particular household.

For example, the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) defines stepfamilies as “…those formed when parents re-partner following separation, and where there is at least one step child of either member of the couple present.” (ABS, 2003: 6).

The problem with such a definition is that it fails to recognise the changing pathways that lead to stepfamilies in modern Australia, where stepparent-child relationships often cross household boundaries (Qu & Weston, 2005).

For example, this definition fails to include families in which children reside in the household part-time, or stepfamilies where the non-resident parent has re-partnered (Qu & Weston, 2005).

An additional problem is the use of confusing terminology. For example, ‘blended family’ is often used as a pseudonym for ‘stepfamily’.

On the other hand, the ABS makes a distinction between stepfamily and blended family: a blended family contains a stepchild, but also a child born to both parents (ABS, 2003).

One New Zealand study used refinements of the term – a ‘partial blended family’ comprised children of one parent only and a ‘full blended family’ had children of both parents.

Children born to the couple were not included in the definition (Dharmalingam, Pool, Sceats & Mackay, 2004, p. 72).

Other terms used to describe families are reconstituted, remarried, repartnered, merged, instant or synergistic instead of stepfamily, and ‘social parent’ may be used instead of stepparent.

SAVI considers a useful definition of stepfamily to be inclusive, making no distinction about gender, residence or amount of contact with children, and focusing on its unique structure.

SAVI defines a stepfamily as a family of two adults in a formal or informal marriage where at least one of the adults has children from a previous relationship. There may be children from the current union.

Children may live-in full-time or part-time or may not currently have contact. This definition does not distinguish between dependent and independent children.

https://aifs.gov.au/cfca/publications/stepfamilies-understanding-and-responding-effectively

Friday, September 2, 2016

I love him, but not his kids - My wiki



Alex Thomas is rather different to many other stepmothers for one
simple reason: she is prepared to confess to the extent of her feelings,
or rather, the lack of them, towards her stepchildren.


As she will tell you, the best-kept secret of step-parenting is
that just because you fall for your partner, it doesn't mean you'll take
to their children.


The truth is, you're more likely not to. One wonders why it is such a crime to admit to such a universal reality?


We're not supposed to unconditionally love our partner's parents,
after all, so why should their offspring be a different matter?


As step-families are the fastest-rising family form we have, why
is it so difficult to admit to the ambivalence so many of us experience
daily?


Read more...https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2007/mar/10/familyandrelationships.family1

I love him, but not his kids - My wiki: