Sunday, September 6, 2015

Blended families pose challenges

Blending families can be challenging, and reasons are many and varied. The National Step Family Resource Center points out that all step families begin with a history of loss. Step families form because previous relationships have ended.

Such a significant loss can bring on feelings of sadness, anger and fear, and many times members of a blended family may enter into the new situation on edge, guarding themselves against the possibility of experiencing that kind of loss all over again.

In addition, the very formation of step families creates “insiders” and “outsiders,” according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. In traditional families, relationships are more fluid. Family members feel closer to each other depending on experiences.


Saturday, September 5, 2015

Keeping up with life in a blended family

When I was growing up there was no such thing as a "blended" family.

There was still a strong social stigma attached to divorce and I dare say plenty of people felt trapped in a marriage they could not leave.

While there was no white picket fence around the comfortable four-bedroom house in the cul-de-sac where my family lived, there was no divorce or separation either.

There was me, my two sisters and our parents. Mum and Dad were married 42 years till his death.

It was all very middle-class and conservative. Dad earned the dough and he was the boss. Mum ran the house and organised us kids. Sure, there were arguments and fallouts and us kids got whacked when we stepped out line. But that was the done thing.


Friday, September 4, 2015

Couples Counselling & Family Therapy

Family relationships are an important factor in psychological health. Staff at Bethesda are dedicated to supporting and strengthening all aspects of the family unit and provide counselling for marriage and relationship problems, parenting challenges, blended families, FIFO families and those experiencing the pain and grief of separation or divorce.

Services are also available to support adolescents who are struggling with issues of low self-esteem, depression, grief and loss, drug/alcohol abuse, self-harm and/or anger. Individual, couples and family sessions are all available and are designed to help and support individuals within the family and to develop and support the relational strengths within the family unit itself.


52 Week Build a Better Relationship With Your Stepkid Challenge

We want to help each and every stepparent build a better relationship with their stepkids by providing guidance on how to create more moments of connection, fun, and shared interests.

Each week during the 52 Week Build a Better Relationship Challenge you will be sent an email outlining a small step you can take to strengthen your relationship with your stepchild. We’ve created the challenge to help you create more positive moments in your relationship with your stepchildren and to help you learn how to overcome the obstacles that regularly occur in stepfamily life.