Monday, August 31, 2015

Stepfamilies - Focus on building relationships

Perhaps the most important task in creating a happy stepfamily is building individual relationships.

Stepmothers and fathers can build trust and respect by developing a warm and involved relationship with children before becoming involved in discipline.

Spending one-on-one time without the demands of other people helps with direct communication.

Doing fun activities together – such as taking a walk or a bike ride, going on a special outing, going shopping or teaching a new skill – can show children the step-parent’s good qualities.

This sort of time together shows children their step-parent cares about them, not just their parent.


Step Parenting - Creating Trust in the Family

One of the most important aspects of any relationship is trust and for someone who is a step parent or about to become one, this is an area where they would need to work on.

At the centre of a relationship like this are children who have been introduced to someone new who will be living with them from now on.

For the new family network to function there has to be a lot of work done in order to produce trust from and to the step parents.

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Step Parenting: The Age Group of Your Step Children Matters

As a step parent, you have your role cut out for you. You know already that you may have to earn the love and trust of your step children before being accepted as part of the family.

This no doubt could be a bit daunting because sometimes, you never know whether you are doing the right thing or not by them.

The age group of the step children play a large part in the process of building a strong step family unit.

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Saturday, August 29, 2015

Stepfamilies - Take time and do not expect too much too soon

In the case of all challenges faced by step-parents, the key is not to expect things to happen too quickly – getting to know other people can take years and you can’t hurry the process.

Both partners are doing something new and it can help if you can work out a strategy for the role each partner will play.

Introducing gradual changes in day-to-day living can help ease the new family into place and make the transition for children much easier.



Friday, August 28, 2015

For A Happy Blended Family

I am no stranger to blended families. Not only am I a single mom, but my mother remarried when I was in elementary school.

Our family went from a single-parent home with three children to one that also included a stepbrother and stepfather. My previous marriage included astepdaughter.

Before that, I was the girlfriend with no children of my own, trying to figure that whole dating-a-single-dad thing. Each situation provided me with a different perspective.

I've listed some key things I've learned based on my experiences. Since every situation is unique, a copy and paste approach to any relationships simply won't work.

Thus, this is not a "how to" list, it's more of a list of suggestions.


Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Kids Health - Topics - Stepfamilies

Sadly sometimes a family is split up. Maybe the mum and dad decide to live apart. Maybe the mum or the dad dies.

After a time, the mum or dad may start a new relationship.

That may lead to the child having not just a 'new' mum or dad, but perhaps a whole new family, because the new parent in the kid's life may have kids of his or her own too.

This is having a stepfamily.

The kids are not natural brothers and sisters, they are stepsiblings (sibling is a word we can use which means a brother or sister).


Step-Parents and Pre-Teens

In books, ballets, films and folklore, stepfamily life has a terrible press and is often misrepresented as second best.

But it's not all divided loyalties and power struggles.

Pre-teens raised in stepfamilies have access to a larger extended family and maybe even another language or culture.

An only child may have brothers and sisters for the first time.


How to stay in love while raising a stepfamily

You fall in love and decide you want to be together - but the decision isn't just about you and him. One - maybe both - of you have children from a previous relationship. In the early days of getting to know each other, it's easy to ignore the impact this will have on all your lives.

But as soon as you know it's serious, your relationship seems to recede into the background. You start to grapple with other issues: you may want to spend your time getting to know all about him; instead you have to start by getting to know his children.

There'll probably be an ex-partner still on the scene, who may be downright hostile to your good intentions. The children themselves may be confused, angry or frightened, unwilling or unable to share you with their parent.

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Tuesday, August 25, 2015

This Book Is A Lifesaver – Stepmother Survival Guide

Stepmother Survival GuideThis Book Is A Lifesaver!

By Kindle Customer on September 10, 2014
Format: Kindle Edition

This book is AMAZING!

If you are a new stepmother (or soon will be) you absolutely NEED this book!

It details EVERYTHING you need to know to become the best stepmom you can be.

From bonding, to setting realistic expectations, to overcoming doubts and fears THIS BOOK HAS IT ALL!

If you are struggling to fit in with your new family, this book could be the one thing that changes your life forever.


Saturday, August 8, 2015

How to avoid stepkids feuding over inheritance

The American family has gotten pretty complicated. Two in five marriages are remarriages, according to the Pew Research Center, and since 1980 the number of people who have been married more than once has nearly doubled. That means we have many more stepparents, half-siblings and step-nieces than ever before.

Many of these big families are happy ones. But when the parents die, blended families can also be prone to fierce fights over money, especially if Stepdad or Stepmom was loaded.