Some of the biggest issues for couples are those to do with loyalties and jealousy. The bond between parent and child is very strong and needs respect and understanding. Some couples struggle with the powerful feelings and loyalty that a parent has for their children and may feel pushed out by this.
It’s important to remember that children will always hold a very special place in a parent’s heart and this is quite different from the feelings they have for a partner. What's more, children grow up and move away, so a parent’s attention will not be divided forever.
The other area of tension can be around ex-partners. If former partners are still involved in parenting (which hopefully they will be) then it's not possible to completely move on from the past. There'll always be a connection that some new partners can struggle with.
Remembering that the relationship has changed and the common ground is the children, not anything else, can help you to maintain perspective and work with your partner in the best interests of the children.
Saturday, June 23, 2012
Stepfamily Loyalty Issues
Posted by johngawler at 4:18 AM