Thursday, November 24, 2011

The Divorced Child: Strengthening Your Family through the First Three Years of Separation

Divorce is a reality of today’s family life, but clinical research has shown that it is possible to mitigate its negative effects on children. Dr. Joseph Nowinski, a family therapist with over 20 years of experience treating families, argues that there is a three-year window in which to acclimate children to the change in family life. Combining case studies with new research, Dr. Nowinski gives parents the information and the tools to work through the transition. Written in a warm and authoritative tone, Nowinski will teach parents to:

· Focus on your child’s new day-to-day reality

· Identify early signs of trouble

· Help your child through the separation process and help them develop coping skills that will remain with them through life

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Step Parent Rights – A Stepfather's Role

Step parents' rights are not always clear, especially concerning a step dad's role. Does a stepfather have the same rights and responsibilities as a biological father?

While it is great that divorcees are remarrying and giving their children a two-parent home again, the rights of step parents are often unclear. What are a stepfather's rights and responsibilities? The answer is that, even if the new step dad pays all the bills and raises the child, a biological father usually has more parental rights.

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8 Strategies for Successful Step-Parenting

Today's statistics reveal that as much as 65 percent of all marriages end in divorce.

Among divorced couples, more than 50 percent are parents; and many if not most of them will remarry. An overwhelming number of adults in our society have chosen to become step-parents. This book assumes that no matter who you are, and how much experience you've had with kids, becoming a step-parent, sometimes called the "blending of families," is difficult work.

The book presents 8 Strategies, in the form of action steps, to maximize anyone's chances of success in this challenging endeavor.

The authors are a married couple, and partners in their own blended family. They have also worked with hundreds of clients over twenty-three years in their counseling practices.

"Being responsible for the day-to-day physical, emotional and spiritual care of someone else's children takes a lot of guts," they assert, it takes "persistence, optimism, focus, and love for your new partner, enough to commit yourself to his or her children."

Use this book to discover how to:

* create a "parenting partnership"

* move beyond resentment of or competition with the former spouse

* examine and work with your unrealistic expectations about yourself and your kids

* build new and happy memories with your step-children, while respecting their old ones

* use the "Family Hierarchy Ladder" to resolve many problems before they show up

* get the help you need when "things" or people break down.

8 Strategies for Successful Step-Parenting is written in a non-apologetic voice, offering strong and specific direction to address current problems-including:

* how to create a Behavior-Consequence program with children who are acting out, and

* how to anticipate areas of conflict and confusion, like where to live and how to assign bedrooms to kids, as some live-in permanently and some visit regularly.

Vignettes of 30 real-life family situations support the strategies suggested. Issues and examples are applicable cross-culturally, and address needs of both men and women. This book will empower readers to take up their new challenge with common sense, firmness and compassion; but most of all, with greater self-knowledge-the best strategy for success in any important task. And, as they assert, step-parenting is not only important, it is life-altering.

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