Tuesday, January 16, 2018

The Stepparent Role

"Many children in New Zealand spend at least part of their lives growing up in stepfamilies.
Yet despite the prevalence of stepfamilies and indications that they are increasing, there is little certainty regarding the parenting role stepparents should adopt to benefit their stepchildren the most.
This ambiguity is further reflected in the law; with stepparents having few legal responsibilities to their stepchildren.

This research sought to identify how individuals define and negotiate the stepparent‘s role in newly formed stepfamilies in New Zealand.
Previous research and clinical practice indicates that how this role is defined is closely tied to stepfamily well-being.
However there is still a great deal we do not understand about how stepfamily members construct this role, the nature of change over time, and how it is negotiated among stepfamily members.

Read more...The Stepparent Role: How It Is Defined and Negotiated in Stepfamilies in New Zealand:

Step parents - Kiwi Families

With more and more first marriages ending in divorce, step parents and blended families are becoming increasingly common. 

While there are obviously issues which need to be addressed, being a step parentdoesn’t have to be a nightmare. Here are some tips for dealing with the most common issues.

Read more...Step parents - Kiwi Families:

Monday, January 15, 2018

'Part-time parenting' can benefit kids while liberating mums and dads

Lucy Good loves being a co-parent.
When her relationship with her husband broke down five years ago, they agreed splitting the time with their two daughters 50/50 was the best option.
Not only does she treasure having both her own space and one-on-one time with the kids, she believes the girls have better relationships with her and their dad because of it.
"When in a partnered relationship you may have a break here and there, but it's limited to a few hours," the Noosa mum of two said.
"With co-parenting, having that 'me time' is extremely valuable, not only to recharge and just take a break, but it enables you to work on yourself — whether that is health, career or just concentrating on the future."
'Part-time parenting' can benefit kids while liberating mums and dads - ABC News (Australian Broadcasting Corporation):

Friday, January 12, 2018

Making a blended family just feel like family

DEAR CAROLYN: I have two stepchildren, 17 and 15. They switch off between our house and their mother’s. My husband and I have been married three years and have a 6-month-old daughter.

I am really sad about the lack of affection between my stepkids and my daughter. They never hold her or play with her or ask to feed her. They basically pretend she isn’t there.

My husband says to just give them time, but he doesn’t do much to encourage all of us to do things together. It’s like he spends time with his older kids or the baby but not all of us at once.

I want us to be a family and it doesn’t feel like we are now. You can’t force affection, but I would like to know how to encourage it.

Read more..Making a blended family just feel like family | The Seattle Times:

Monday, July 24, 2017

Breaking the silence around couple’s counselling

Breaking the silence around couple’s counselling | National Post:

"Couples counselling is something Jesse and I talked about even in our breezy, pre-marriage days. We thought it would be a healthy and proactive way to equip ourselves with the tools necessary to make it to our 90s together.

And now, here we are. Three beautiful boys. Blended family. New baby. We could continue about our life, arguing about the same things over and over again, making up and moving on. Or, we could nip those recurring arguments in the bud, learn better ways to communicate, learn how to be more compassionate and forgiving, and really listen to what the other person needs."

Monday, July 17, 2017

You're A New Stepmom, Now What?

You're A New Stepmom, Now What?

This story originally appeared in the May/June issue of Latina magazine.You made
it down the aisle. You’ve got a great new hubby and—bonus—a brand...

Remarried with children

Remarried with children